At work, do you find yourself saying things like the below?

“You should talk to Pete about the change”
“Cathy, as your mentor, I’m telling you, you should take this course”
“My advice, you should….”

How about in your personal life? End up saying things like:

“Patricia, you should listen to me, I know what I’m talking about”
“You should just leave, you hate working there anyways”
“Dan, you should talk to your daughter”

Notice in all of the above statements, you’re telling someone they “should” do something.

As change agents and leaders, we're often providing recommendations. And there is a difference between providing a recommendation and telling someone they “should” do something. If you answered yes to the above questions, you’re actually “shoulding” on people. What’s the big deal with doing this and what’s the difference between the two?

Click Read More to see what:

The difference is between providing a recommendation and “shoulding” on people
“Shoulding” on people is costing you at work and in your personal life